Curious about how to attract men? If you’re having trouble in your love life and can’t seem to find the right man, you’ve come to the right place.
You’re probably sick and tired of running into the same type of jerk every time you put yourself out there, so you’re looking for legit relationship advice that is actually going to do the trick!
Well, a good guy is hard to find. There’s no doubt about that.
But the first thing you need to keep in mind is that it all starts with you.
There are so many different things about you that are already so appealing to men, you just don’t know it!
It’s those little things you would never think of… Like the way your hair flows in a light summer breeze when you flip it over your shoulder, or the way your eyes sparkle when you’re talking about something you’re passionate about.
We as human beings are so focused on finding ways to attract the opposite sex that we put ourselves down way too often and for what?
When you are perfectly at peace with yourself, only then can you start worrying about what men want.
These tips are here simply to help you emphasize things about yourself that are already within you.
Every woman out there has the potential to get any man she wants.
The only problem is that not every woman is confident enough to exhibit all of her amazing personality traits due to a fear of rejection.
What every man wants is to find a woman who is confident enough not to let her silly fears get in the way of finding that perfect connection and then work on maintaining it.
Next time you catch yourself thinking there’s something wrong with you or that you don’t have what it takes, replace that negative outlook with a new positive attitude and don’t let it slip away from you.
Attracting men is going to be a piece of cake once you learn how to use what you already have to your advantage!
Eye contact, body language and your posture are all powerful ways (among many more) that play a big role in how men see you.
There is no one sure way to win over the right man but there is a plethora of different ideas that all greatly contribute!
The list you are going to find here is a foolproof way to make yourself appear in the best light possible and to make sure you’ve done the absolute best job while looking for Mr. Right.
The secret to any long-term relationship is simply to have your partner be your best friend.
And I’m sure you’re aware that so many beautiful relationships start out exactly like that—as a friendship.
The first piece of dating advice I am going to offer you is how to get men to notice you without trying too hard. So let’s get cracking.
How to attract men‘s attention?
1. Be a kind person
If there is one personality trait that is vitally important in a long-term relationship, it’s kindness.
If you want to know how to attract men, this is your way in. Physical appearance will only get you so far.
It’s the way you conduct yourself that plays a much more prominent role. Show interest in your guy and listen intently to what he has to say.
- Ask him about his day when you see him and be his sounding board.
- Express interest in his hobbies and ask about how his favorite football team is doing.
- Do something you know he will appreciate and in that way show him that you listen to him.
First impressions usually play the biggest role in his perception of you so make sure to really show your true colors on the first date and don’t let your nerves get to you. Being yourself is the best choice you can make.
A positive attitude does half the job for you. All men want is to find a girl who is down to earth, fair and able to laugh in the face of life’s challenges.
Don’t take yourself too seriously and always keep in mind that your vibe attracts your tribe!
2. Be a high-value woman
If you really want to know what men want and how to be attractive to them, confidence is key.
Know what you want, go after it and never apologize for it.
Now this doesn’t mean that you should go after every guy who catches your eye and sleep with as many men as you can get your hands on.
What this means is that you should find that someone you are attracted to, focus on winning him over and then put yourself out there confidently and without worrying about being too assertive.
It’s important that you never let men make you feel bad about knowing your worth and not shying away from being confident in your pursuit of the right man.
Always aim to be a woman of high standards whose beliefs and perspectives cannot be shaken by some weak-ass man who’s so insecure that he needs to put other people down.
You know what you want and you know better than to settle.
If a man doesn’t live up to your criteria, walk away and seek someone who will. Simple as that.
Here is how you can use your self-worth to your advantage and find yourself a good guy:
- Know what you want and don’t settle for less, no matter how charming the guy may be.
- Let your personality shine and don’t hide any parts of yourself to indulge a man’s fragile ego.
- Realize that you’re the catch and let go of anyone who makes you feel otherwise.
3. Show him that you’re into him
It’s very simple. If you let the guy know that he’s got an actual chance with you, it’s going to improve your chances of attracting him significantly.
If he has no way of knowing if you’re even slightly into him, he’s going to retreat.
This does not necessarily require you to wear clothes that are outside of your comfort zone or to focus too much on your physical appearance.
It’s more about the vibes you give out and the positive attitude that you should always maintain.
If he senses that you’re not into him because you’re playing hard to get, he’s going to get the wrong message and back off.
Don’t let that happen and always be upfront with how you feel.
Keeping him in the dark will get you zero results.
Here are a few different things you can try out to let him know you’re interested:
- Always pay attention when he’s talking because you want to create a safe environment for him where he can safely open up to you.
- Ask follow-up questions. This is a sure way to make him see you’re all ears.
- Gently touch him every now and again.
4. Keep a positive attitude around him
Rewind back to your last few dates. Think about the guys and their general attitude and outlook on life.
Were they high on life, seeing things through rose-colored glasses or were they total downers with a bunch of negative things to say about pretty much anything?
And now think about how it affected you and their perception of them.
It’s totally normal (and expected really) to be attracted to somebody who exudes positivity and good vibes.
We as human beings feel more comfortable around somebody who is likely to make us feel positive and safe rather than gloomy and jaded.
I myself can say with complete certainty that a positive attitude in a person will appeal to me much faster than the way they look or what they wear.
If they don’t make me feel relaxed and comfortable, I’m out the door.
Here are a few tips to let your beautiful personality traits do the talking for you:
- Resist the urge to share your gloomy outlook on any topic that comes up. Instead, try to put a positive spin on it.
- Do not talk about your ex for at least a few dates, because it may bring out some unresolved issues within.
- If he mentions something negative, suggest to move away from that topic to something more light and appropriate.
5. Always choose to be honest and transparent
Personally, I’ve never really understood the urge to hide the truth and make yourself appear as someone you’re not. What’s the point of that?
The guy is going to figure it out sooner rather than later, especially if you keep seeing each other after the first date.
Why would you make him see you as somebody you’re not and risk him falling for a person who is clearly not you?
Don’t do that. Keep true to who you are and be honest about what you like or dislike.
Men like women who keep to their word and who they can trust. Don’t give him a reason to doubt you.
Whichever lie you decide to serve him, no matter how small it may seem, it’s going to bite you in the ass at some point down the road.
This is how you can implement honesty, even when it may be tricky:
- Know that if he’s the right man for you, he can handle your truth without making you feel bad.
- If he asks about something you’re too uncomfortable discussing right now, ask him to circle back to it at a later time.
- Tell him how much you appreciate honesty and let him know that’s what you expect from him.
6. Don’t forget about the importance of smiling
This is probably the easiest part of attracting men! All it takes is a genuine smile on your face and you’re good to go.
Now, you don’t want to overdo it and smile like a crazy person the whole time. Keep it within reason.
As you’re talking (about a positive subject) make sure to put on a coy smile every now and again and switch it up as the topics change.
Throw in an occasional flirtatious smile, then use it as an opportunity to react to something he said and make him notice that gorgeous smile of yours.
It indicates that you’re having a good time and that you’re an easygoing, chill person.
Men like women who smile often and don’t take themselves too seriously. That way, you will stay in his mind for a long time afterward.
Here’s how to smile more often and make a habit of it:
- Consciously smile every time he says something that makes you feel giddy inside.
- Decide to smile a certain amount of times during the day and it will soon become second nature.
- Practice smiling in front of a mirror if it’s not something that comes naturally to you.
7. Don’t dumb yourself down, show him how smart you are
If you’re of the opinion that men fall for dumb girls, you’re WAY wrong.
That is such a common and unfortunate misconception that makes intelligent women feel bad about how smart they really are.
It is never a good idea to make yourself look stupid in order to make a man shine!
If you don’t think that the guy you’re after can handle your extensive knowledge of various subjects, then you’re after the wrong guy.
Always be true to yourself. A real man appreciates an intelligent woman who is at the same time smart, sexy, ambitious and fun.
That’s the real goal for any man who isn’t intimidated by strong women.
Here is what you should never allow to happen when it comes to your brain:
- Never let a man make you feel like you can’t contradict him. If you have a good point, always share it.
- Never let a man speak on your behalf, especially if you know he’s seriously wrong.
- Never let a man make you feel like you should be quiet in order to make him look smarter.
Remember, YOU are a catch. Any man should be so lucky to have you! Don’t ever compromise your mind or your feelings for anyone’s selfish needs.
Whoever cannot handle you in all your glory, doesn’t deserve to have you.
They would never be able to appreciate you and all that you bring to the table. So aim to find your equal and never lower your standards.
Now that we’ve covered the basics on how to attract men, let’s move on to another aspect of this thing called the pursuit of love.
As we all know by now, love doesn’t really care about age.
I’m sure many of you have been in situations where a guy who was significantly older turned out to be just what the doctor prescribed.
Let’s be real. Older men are simply more mature and have tons more experience, therefore won’t let superficial things such as physical appearance and the way you dress affect their judgment of you.
They’ve been through enough to know what really matters. So if you want to know how to attract a man over 50, you’re in the right place.
There is no shame in wanting a man who is in touch with his emotions and won’t hurt you like insecure boys might. Go after what makes you feel good!
Here is some foolproof dating advice that will help you find a mature and reliable older guy.
How to attract a man over 50?
1. Show him your mature side by getting rid of your childish habits
Older men like women who ooze an air of maturity and confidence.
Pay attention to what your body language is saying and don’t forget about the power of eye contact.
If you want to attract a man over 50, you need to get rid of certain habits that won’t be appealing to him, such as whining about trivial stuff and being irresponsible with money.
An older man wants to see that you’re capable of taking care of yourself and that you can be financially responsible.
Also, maybe don’t talk to him about your frenemy Becky and her annoying habits; rather find meaningful subjects that he’ll actually care about.
2. Dress according to your age
Don’t wear clothes that you wore in high school.
If necessary, change your wardrobe a little, because an older man won’t be attracted to a woman who can’t dress her age.
This is important because it shows him you’re indeed an adult woman who can both dress and act appropriately.
Next time you’re tempted to wear your cute outfit from ten years ago, resist the urge and choose to go in a more mature direction.
A man over 50 is looking for somebody to potentially settle down with and grow old with.
They don’t want a kid whose only goal is getting wasted and wearing skimpy outfits.
Change your appearance and your attitude if you want him to see that you’re a grown-ass woman who can take herself seriously when needed.
3. Don’t make him think that you’re after his money
This is an immediate red flag. If money is what you’re after, you should give up immediately.
Older men are more intuitive and they will see right through you and your less than honorable intentions.
But if it’s love that you’re feeling, this is how you can make him see that your intentions are pure:
- Avoid talking about how much he makes and how much you love his expensive car.
- Split the bill evenly when you’re on a date (if he lets you) and therefore show him you’re not trying to rob him blind.
- Talk about your passion for work and show him you’re eager to support yourself.
It’s normal for an older man to question things when a much younger woman is supposedly interested in him.
He just wants to make sure that you’re after him and not his material possessions, so prove to him you’re a high-value woman.
4. Don’t make him feel older than he is
The very reason why older men gravitate toward somewhat younger women is to feel a bit younger than they are and there is nothing wrong with that.
We all want to feel young for as long as possible.
He just wants to know he’s still got it and when a young lady is interested in him, he knows that there’s hope for him yet and that he’s still capable of attracting somebody not necessarily his age.
So don’t go overboard with the age jokes and keep it classy and cool.
He’s well aware of the age gap, so he doesn’t need a daily reminder.
Show him you’re more mature than that by talking about stuff he can relate to and joke around with him all you want, just not about his age.
- One thing you should be aware of when dating an older man is that he probably carries a lot of emotional baggage. Ask yourself if you’re ready to deal with it before engaging in this more deeply. He doesn’t need you to enter his life and bail within weeks.
- Only when you’re sure of what you’re getting yourself into are you safe to enter into this relationship. It’s not shameful to feel ill-equipped to deal with all of his stuff. If you’re not ready, respectfully walk away.
Now, if you’re interested in how to attract men who are somewhat forbidden fruit, you can find that here as well.
Married men might seem more appealing to some women because they are already claimed.
But if you want to bring some dangerous excitement into your love life, follow the list below to see some powerful ways on how you can make a married man notice you.
How to attract a married man?
1. Always smell great
I’m sure you’re aware but our scent is one of the most appealing things about us.
The way you smell can make a man fall for you much faster.
So if you’re in the business of making a married man fall for you, make sure to smell your best.
Also, try to use the same brand of perfume as often as you can, because that way he will always associate it with you.
Wherever he is and whomever he’s with, be it his wife or his best friend, when he senses that perfume somewhere, his mind will go directly to you. And that’s exactly what you want.
2. Flirt-text him
Thanks to amazing technology nowadays, it’s so easy keeping close to someone no matter how far apart you actually are.
If you’re not sure of his current status but you really want to feel close to him, seductive, flirty texts will do the trick.
Let his imagination go to crazy places with your provocative texts and make him see just what he’s missing by not being with you.
Let him know about all the things you would let him do to you and that will you will make him fall for you, hard.
Whatever he’s doing, he’ll immediately stop if you send him just the right amount of flirty, provocative content.
And the best time to do this is at night, so that you make sure to be the last thing on his mind before falling asleep.
3. Show some skin but not all of it
Tease him by letting him see a bit of you but never all of it.
That way he will desperately want to see more but he won’t be able to without getting closer to you. And that is the whole point.
You’re letting him know you’re interested but you’re not giving him yourself on a silver platter.
He needs to make the decision of if he wants to see more of you based on what you’re showing him.
If he can take a hint, you’re golden, If not, his loss!
4. Show him you’re into him through body language
Keep him glued to you using the power of your body but not necessarily in a sexual way (yet).
Your eyes are a big part of your appeal so keep firm eye contact with him every chance you get.
Bite your lips when he’s looking your way and flip your hair occasionally.
Give out all those subtle signs that you’re attracted to him and he won’t even know what hit him. Then the ball will be in his court.
5. Dance like there’s no tomorrow when you know he’s watching
Dancing is an innocent way of expressing yourself but it can also be a powerful tool in attracting attention and seducing the guy you’re after.
If you happen to be at the same club at the same time, go to the dance floor and dance the night away.
If you catch his eye, he’s going to find it really hard to stay immune to seeing you move seductively.
This is a great way to work on your sexual chemistry. By the end of the night, it should be through the roof.
And then, your work will be done. You’ll definitely be on his radar and he’ll be dreaming of your body for many nights to come.